I know that’s a funny topic heading, but I didn’t know how else to title it. In my practice I have met people that enjoy being sick. Most of them are not even aware of it. But as I interact with them I begin to understand that this person will not see improvement in his/her health because honestly, they don’t want to.
Some of them might even take me aside to give them private counselling on how to improve their health, but then you watch them reason out all the sound, scientifically proven and validated medical advice you give them. Some might even agree with you, but go back home and sabotage everything. This is why people with chronic illnesses do not exercise, people with ulcer still take things that make it worse, people with asthma still subject themselves to their allergen and go without a relieving inhaler for emergencies, people with diabetes still take processed sugar, people with hypertension still consume a lot of salt and I could go on. Do they, not know these things are bad, most of them do, but they are not pained enough with their condition to make the necessary changes.
For some people it’ll take a stroke, an amputation, a heart attack, the loss of a loved one to something similar to their condition or something worse to get their pain high enough, past the pleasure they enjoy from their condition that they absolutely must change.
Why do they continue this you might ask?
Well, they enjoy being sick. Subconsciously there are benefits they derive from identifying with whatever illness they have. For some it’s things like:
“Hypertension and diabetes are rich men disease, since I have it, I can identify more with that label”
“People care for me more when I’m sick”
“People pity me and excuse my actions more when I’m sick”
“Being sick shows that I work hard and I am under a lot of stress”
Also if you grew up in a home where your parents jumped through hoops and went to the moon for you when you were ill to make you feel better, and then treated you with way less care when you felt better, you may have created a pattern in your mind to create an environment where you continue to feel this type of attention from people, hence the need to be sick.
For different people, its different things. These people might even feel some pain that comes with whatever illness they face, but the benefits they enjoy outweighs the pain they feel. For some people it’ll take a stroke, an amputation, a heart attack, the loss of a loved one to something similar to their condition or something worse to get their pain high enough, past the pleasure they enjoy from their condition that they absolutely must change.
Have you had any experience with someone who you were trying to help but discovered that they didn’t want it?