Yeah, I said that. Be honest, it becoming more difficult to be happy in this country right now. The state of things is making people sadder, more anxious and more stressed out. Things are not working, plans are falling through, less money is being circulated. This affects the overall health of individuals. We have people that are depressed in this country, we have people that have generalised anxiety disorders, and we don’t talk about it enough. So, a lot of these people try to fight these battles silently. You don’t understand how much depression can silence a person and isolate them from people. Looking at someone that is sad and saying, “hey cheer up, God is in control” or “why are you even sad? Some people are suffering more than you” doesn’t do much to shake away the feel. It just makes them feel like they are surrounded by people that don’t understand them.
Almost everyone faces a point in their lives when they feel a level of sadness that they just can’t shake. It may come on suddenly or an event (loss of a loved one, pressure from work, increased internal pressure, new baby delivery) may trigger it. Eventually, through support, love and God’s grace they are able to emerge from it. For some they may need medication.
I write this for us to talk about this, because a lot more people in this country, despite the jokes online and the occasional smile you may see on their faces are battling with depression. We need to help them, and this help goes beyond giving perfunctory remarks.
If you know someone that is having a hard time and are at the brink of extreme sadness, you need to reach out to them, now. I get that you may have your own demons and your own problems, but understand this, you cannot commit yourself to improving the happiness and quality of life of someone without yours being impacted positively. Here are some things you may notice in someone you love that you need to be concerned about:
- Changed feelings
- Reduced interest in things they used to love
- Increased fatigue
- Sleeping more
- Increased anxiety
- Change in weight and appetite
- Uncontrolled emotions
- Suicidal thought
- Withdrawal from friends and loved ones
- Unable to concentrate
- Seeking addictions to pass the time
understand this, you cannot commit yourself to improving the happiness and quality of life of someone without yours being impacted positively
People need your love and support, not your judgement. Just because someone is going through depression, or any form of extreme sadness, does not mean that the person is weak is just trying to seek attention. Remember, it could be you.